Recent Photos

Here are some recent shots!

hallelujah, wireless!

Desperate times, desperate measures! I am sitting in my car, outside the Glover Town offices, connected to the wireless internet on my sister's laptop.
some recent photos:

Estelle and Estelle

Here is Baby Estelle and the Original Estelle, my aunt, who drove 4 hours in the driving rain to see her namesake. They fell in love with each other......

Vermont Vacation

Wayne and Cole playing with "Uncle Estelle", which is how Cole refers to her. He hasn't grasped the cousin concept yet!

Walking with my sister-in-law Darlene and my nephews Wayne and Cole and the baby in Darlene!

Estelle on Halloween!

Wayne holding Estelle

HAPPY HALLOWEEN, MR. MOOSE!

Some babies go trick or treating on Halloween. Mine goes down to the Moose weigh-in station to visit her uncle Cedric the wildlife biologist and gets her photo taken with a real "live" dead moose, all chopped up. sorry for you faint of heart out there. But it is Halloween, after all.

One for the Road

A few shots of daughter and Dad before we hit the skies without him tomorrow.
Here's hoping I make it across the Atlantic with a 3-month old without too much trouble.

Don't look for much action on this blog for awhile; needless to say, there's ain't no wi-fi in Glover!

p.s. they are watching soccer together. Thomas' team wasn't winning if it isn't obvious.

Raining Cats and Thongs

Before I even begin this story, allow me to backtrack.

In August my sister Lisa and her husband came for a week to help me get on track with the baby. Every morning we'd get up and meet in the kitchen while Estelle was still sleeping and review how my night had been. One morning when I stumbled in looking for my tea, Lisa looked up from her coffee with pity on her face and said "How ARE you? Rough night?" In fact I'd had a great night and told her so. "But your underwear?" she whispered confidentially. She pointed to the balcony off the kitchen. "I put a clothespin on it for you."

You know, when you are a new mother & generally totally sleep-deprived, you really have to assume that when things said by other rational people you know and love make no sense to you, then YOU are the problem, not them. This time I'd had enough sleep to know I wasn't going crazy and she had just said to me what she had, in fact, just said to me. "Huh?" We shuffled out to the balcony in our robes and slippers. There, on my clothesline, was a pair of beige underwear that can best be categorized as "granny briefs". I looked at them. I looked at Lisa. She patted me on the shoulder. Her 6th-grade-teacher-voice-for-girls-who-meet-"Flo"-for-the-first-time-without-the-proper-supplies kicked in: "Did you have some trouble in the night? You can tell me.", the pity-face got more concerned. I had to really think for a moment. "Lisa, that is NOT my underwear." We looked at each other for 2 seconds, and then I got my brain in gear and logically looked up. There hanging on the line of the 6th floor balcony was the laundry of our upstairs neighbors, whom I have never seen and have no idea who they are, just know that it's an eldery couple.

We clapped our hands over our mouths in laughter and jumped back inside. Then you've got a dilemna. What does one do with someone else's underwear which drops from the sky and lands on your clothesline and you don't even know what the people look like? After a roundtable discussion with my somewhat-amused-yet-mildly-horrified-brother-in-law, we decided to put it in a non-see-thru bag, and at midnight left it in front of their door without a sound. The envisioned scenario of "knock knock, hello, I'm your downstairs neighbor and here are your granny briefs" just overwhelmed me, more so in French.
I have yet to see this couple, I have no idea who they are.

Flashforward to today: frenetically doing laundry preparing for the trip to the motherland. Do one load, hang it out, do another, hang it out... but wait, why is there a space on that 3rd row in between my biking sock and Thomas' pyjamas? I never leave a big space, of course, because I need all the space I can get (that statement applies to just about anything in Europe, and certainly laundry-drying-apparati). Oh fudge...... and so I lean over and sure enough, 4 stories down, there it is: my underwear, like a splatted dead animal, clothespin still attached. Lying on the back terrace of whoever lives on the 2nd floor. A black thong.

DANG. What's a girl to do? Why can't it have landed on the guy below us who is a professional oboeist with the Monaco philharmonic and we water his plants when he travels? Or the annoying adolescents on the floor below that who live in their own apartment because their parents live in the apartment across the hall from them? At least I wouldn't be embarrased to ask them for my thong. But who is on the 2nd floor? And why my black thong? Why not Thomas' jeans, or Estelle's little pink pyjamas. "Hello, I'm your neighbor from the 5th floor, so sorry, but I think my daughter's adorable pink pyjamas are on your terrace." Slides off the tongue so much nicer than "Hi, can I have my thong." which p.s. in French is "Bonjour, est-ce que je peux recuperer mon string?"

See, if I was living in America, this wouldn't happen, because I'd have a dang dryer, and even if I lived in an apt building, there'd be a laundry room where my thong could just anonymously have been left and I could just as anonymously sneak back to get it. Now I gotta go knock on a door and in my best French....... sigh...... you get the picture. Already I'm known as "la femme enceinte" (the pregnant woman), or rather, I was known as that. Now I'm "L'Americaine" (think you don't need that translated). The nice people refer to me as "la femme avec le bébé". Whoever is on the 2nd floor will now call me "Madame String". Dang.

So, not capable of the stamina needed to go down and do it, I opted for a photo for the blog.

"VICIOUS" ???

There are moments in your life in a foreign country which offset other days and other experiences like at the Prefecture (see previous post "la honte").

About once a month or so, I will suddennly hear a school bell clanging out on the street. It gets louder and louder, accompanied by some hollering. The first time I heard it, I naturally thought it was a teacher searching for students or the organ grinder with his monkey (yes, we have one of those too in this neighborhood). The beauty of living near the Port of Nice is that it is a real neighborhood, and part of the oldest part of the city. As opposed to where I lived before - first in what was the Russian Czar's palace at the turn of the century, now transformed into a school, and secondly in the bourgeois part of the city - full of rich anglophones, tourists, and retired people from the north of France.

But here in the Port you get a little bit of everything, and nothing too scary. So it took me a few months, staring from the heights of my balcony, to understand what the heck this guy with the tiny little cart and school bell was selling. He kept hollering out things I couldn't understand, clanging his bell and stopping every few feet and looking around. Nobody else was out on their balcony, wondering if he was a Jehovah's witness announcing the apocalypse. He stands practically in the middle of the intersections, yelling and ringing. His cart was just a little thing, grubby and dirty and made of wood as far as I could tell. There was nothing on it, no produce, no food, nothing with color. I strained to hear what he said, but just couldn't make it out. Sounded like he was saying "vicious" - not the way to get a client, whatever you're selling, I thought.

Finally, Barry Manilow (my neighbor who is old-school nicois thru and thru, has an "accent du sud" to die for, dyes his hair, constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY smokes skinny cigars, plays guitar and should break out into the CopaCabana at any moment) explained. He's the Sharpener. He'll sharpen your stuff for a few euros. Just go down on the street with your knives, your scissors, your sabre, whatever. He's got some stone that he turns with a crank or something.

In the States, if you have an ice cream truck that comes thru your neighborhood, it is considered quaint. I've got Mr. Sharpener. The mystery is only partially solved-- I still don't know what he shouts. Believe me, I've had the dictionary out trying to figure it out. Thomas gave me a blank look because he's never here when the guy is out on the street. Next time I see Barry I'm going to get to the bottom on it. p.s. to my family: kind of reminds you of Mom and the "ee tan yah"?

"America or Bust"

Estelle's new passport! Look at the glee!

"Oh, la Honte"

This expression means "oh, the shame", and essentially is what you say when you witness someone doing something you find inacceptable. Or, when you yourself do something really dumb, when telling the story to others, you say it to mean "I looked like such an idiot." or, as I am wont to say "Definitely in the Top 10 Most Embarrassing Moment of my Life".

Anyways, Tuesday morning something happenned at the Prefecture of Nice, and when I told my husband about it later that day, he actually turned away from his soccer game and said "Oh, la honte. La honte pour la France."

The Prefecture is kind of like the DMV, city hall, Immigration Services and an embassy all rolled into one big mass of miserable concrete and huge metal gates and guards and civil servants who all seem relatively or extremely dissatisfied with their jobs - their jobs which, I might add, allow them to hold the fate of every foreigner in their hands. That's one long sentence to match the long line outside the Prefecture of Nice every Monday thru Friday.

I have had the displeasure of going to the Prefecture at least once a year since my arrival in 2001. Let it be known that in 2001 I had to make the trek 3 times due to lack of savvy about what the hell you are doing at said Prefecture. I could go on and on- in fact, I will; but let me just say that at first, the unknowing and spoiled American, I reacted with outrage and indignancy at the arbitrariness of the "service" and furthermore the almost constant lack of efficiency. Now, after over 5 years, I have become humble after taking a bus at 6:30 am on cold mornings to ride 45 minutes outside Nice and wait in line with all the "black" Africans and the "north" Africans (these are the kinder of the various terms that the nicois use to refer to these immigrants), all of whom speak French because they once were french colonies (you see the irony of course). If you arrive by 7:30, to wait in line outside a gate that opens at 9 am, you have a good shot at actually being seen that day. If you arrive at 9, or later, forget it. It doesn't matter where you've travelled from, they close when they close, and if there are 100 people still waiting, too bad, come back tomorrow. There is always a look of confused and mounting dismay on unknowing foreigners (most North American exchange students) who roll up around 9:30 and you see the shock on their faces when they see the line snaking up and down the hallway. They start looking for someone who speaks English to explain to them what is going on.

Let's go back to the step-by-steps: when they open the big outside gate at 9, everyone runs to get to the doors into the building. Runs, I mean, RUNS like their life depended on it, runs as if someone is behind them with a gun. The only thing i have ever experienced in the States that resembles it was a U2 concert with general seating at Saratoga racetrack and the lighting of the Christmas tree at Rockefeller center one year when I almost lost my life in the crowd. Anyway - the mad dash: you may think you are above it all, but if you don't run, you will drop back 20 or 30 people in the line, even if you were right up against the gate at 7:30. And that means you don't get seen at all that day, or you wait for 6 hours in a waiting room which I can only describe as highly depressing and unpleasant. So you run, you run, like cattle for a feed, and women with children and elderly people just get passed by. It becomes violent, people yell and scream and elbow each other and push and shove, often in so many languages that no one knows what the heck is going on. It is the most sickening experience of my year, going to the Prefecture. As I said, incredibly humbling. You are at the mercy of the system in the country you want to live in, and thus play by local rules. And if you are American, it cuts you no slack at all, except that you stand out, because the "white" people in the line are few and far between. Remember that all the British are in the EU and so no need for all this nightmare. But the North Americans are students mostly, and so they go into a different line inside and thus avoid the worst of it: when the doors open at 9, there is another mad dash inside the building down a long corridor to yet another metal gate, an overhead door like a garage door. At this point the line becomes defined because there are stantions with ropes, and it forces people into a "single file". I have seen people come to blows at this stage. It is, needless to say, alarming.

A few minutes after 9, the metal door is raised and people will even crawl under to try and beat out someone they feel has wronged them, which, essentially, is everyone. In front of you is a desk, with a woman behind it. This is the Number Woman. She asks you why you are here, and checks to see that you have all the papers that you will need. If you don't, you are sent away to make photocopies or take a photo or pay your fee or whatever in a different part of the bldg, and, if she doesn't like you, the Number Woman won't give you your number. It is wild. But if you have all your stuff, she gives you a ticket, and you sit down and wait to see your number start flashing on the digital screen blinking and buzzing at you with a counter number to go to. You go, sit down on the other side of the bullet proof glass, and stare at the person on the other side who can make or break your day or life. I have gone 12 times I think in 5 years. Each year for my job, and 3 times the 1st year due to my cluelessness. The wedding required 3 different trips spread out over 2 years. Usually the night before I go I can't sleep because my stomach is in knots knowing that i have to go. It is just so humiliating. What do our immigrants in America experience? That is what I think every time I go.

Tuesday morning an American friend of mine went to the Prefecture for her annual renewal of her Carte de Sejour (visa). At 9:25 a.m. I saw her number come up on the LCD display of my phone - I looked at the clock. "Good for Abby!" I thought. If you get right in there because you're there really early and you run like a sprint star, and have all your stuff, and you are renewing, you can be out the door by 9:30. I've done it many times recently. Thus I assumed she was calling jubilantly to say she was done - it's what we all do when we walk out the door of the Prefecture. We breathe deeply, we smile, we go to the bus stop and gaze fondly at our shiny new visa, knowing that we don't have to come back for another year - and then we call someone to share the glory. However, Abby's story was different. In fact, people came to blows, as they often do, and so this time a new development: the police were called in. The people involved were hauled off, and to "teach people a lesson", the Prefecture just shut down for the day and sent everyone away and served no one. Hundreds of people just had to leave. Imagine the pandomonium. Unspeakable, she said. Who was being taught a lesson I'm not sure, as every day hundreds of people come, and I can't imagine that they are going to put up signs with photos of the people being hauled off by the policed saying "Behave, or this could happen to YOU!"

3 days later I still can't believe it. This stunned me as a first in my experience and furthermore really bad luck for Abby. So to come back to the beginning, when I told Thomas, he said "oh la honte, la honte pour la France." I couldn't agree more.

Pink Eye

Just when you think you know what you're doing, your baby has pink eye!
All is well, except that when you put in the drops, she kind of gets this goth teenager look. Now I know what she'll look like wearing eyeliner. Or, at Halloween.
Fortunately, the photos just show cuteness and no goth-ness.

the Can Can

Well, almost.

Estelle and her 2 friends sat for a photo shoot yesterday morning at tea.
Left: Maxence, born exactly 4 weeks after Estelle was 4kg 200 grammes. i.e. one big baby. She is still bigger than Estelle!
Middle: Her highness, born July 18th at 3kg even.
Right: Lucille, aka LuLu, born 2 hours after Estelle. She was ceaserean and 2 wks premature, and only 2kg600 i.e. one little baby. She is not gaining much weight very rapidly.

The other two girls get both formula bottles and breastmilk due to Maxence's mommy not producing enough milk and Lulu being so tiny that she needs formula. Only Estelle has been able to develop a double chin with breastmilk alone. I'm quite proud!

TPFB

About 3 1/2 years ago in a long email to my sisters I referred to Thomas as "TPFB". (The Perfect French Boyfriend). I think, in fact, it was something like "Top Ten Reasons Why I Have TPFB". One of those reasons, I remember, was that he thought my ski jump nose was cute. Sigh. Life before children. Anyways, so now he's either TPFH (husband), or perhaps more accurately "TPFF" (father).

Here are 3 photos of him as the latter.
Papa Thomas, star of Calvinet, rocks the little village with the state-of-the-art pram in bright hunter orange, furnished by....Estelle's grandparents, of course!

Papa Thomas and Papie Guy see who can make more faces to see Estelle smile.

Papa Thomas carries his daughter up about 17 different flights of steps, in the brilliant sunshine, to get up to a castle in the town of Aurillac whilst on vacation. This is due to us thinking it would be less difficult than walking up the road pushing the buggy. Please note Papa Thomas carried his daughter up all 567 steps inside her removable pram bed. Also please note that Maman Julie carried the damn pram chassis up said 567 steps. When I took this photo I took a step back and almost broke my neck falling back down one of those flights of stairs. I can still feel the jolt of adenaline that shocked thru my body when I caught myself on the rocks before I hurtled down.

The Difference Between...

So, here's something that only happens when you live in a foreign country:

Monday I had a lesson with a highschool senior. This happens in my apt while Estelle (theoretically) is taking a nap.

Having just returned after being away for 3 weeks, the cupboards are bare as you might imagine. Not much to eat and nothing interesting to drink either: No bottled water, no perrier, no juice. I was sick of drinking water so decided to spice things up by taking a lesson from Thomas' cousins whom I had met whilst on vacation. The French love something called "sirop" - you got it: syrup. This product comes in all flavors imaginable. It is packaged in tin canisters or sometimes glass bottles and you pour some into the bottom of a glass and then add water - eureka, instant sugar drink. It's basically the new Koolaid of the 21st century. Just in liquid form. Of course you can make it as sweet or as diluted as you want.

I personally have never been tempted by the stuff, but I had a lack-of-sugar headache and thought I'd better get some energy for my lesson. I knew that we had a bottle of some "sirop" stuff that Thomas had bought once. The flavor was "cassis", which means "currant". So into the glass I poured a inch or more and added ice and water and frankly was quite proud of myself and was feeling TRES french.

The doorbell rings, in walks my student Sophie, and we sit down for our weekly attack of the English language. About 5 minutes later I felt this strange warm sensation, vaguely familiar but relatively unidentifiable. After a few more minutes I realized that feeling I couldn't at first put my finger on was that I felt drunk! I stared at my glass, excused myself into the kitchen under the pretense of getting a kleenex and pulled out that bottle - upon closer inspection of the label, I saw "15%".

Note to self: Creme de Cassis and Sirop de Cassis are not the same thing. One would think that my days of bartending from 11 years ago would have registered, but at a quick glance when you are preparing to squeeze in a lesson and your infant is sleeping and there's nothing in the house, you don't expect that you are making yourself a cocktail at 11:30 am. Bottoms up!

Rap Star

This is what happens when Thomas teaches Estelle how to move like a rapper.


I am including a photo of myself changing a diaper. Proof that I actually do it. About 9 times a day.

A few more photos

A funny moment, about one kilo ago.... p.s. Estelle's not the only one who has put on weight.
The view of Calvinet from our house.
From the field's of the cousin's farm.... the corn is probably as high as an elephant's eye....

Photos from Vacation

Happy Birthday to Thomas! A visit from childhood hockey buddy Francois and his wife Aurelie. We are eating a "tarte tatin" made by yours truly from apples picked from the trees on Thomas' parents' land. Tarte Tatin is like upside down apple pie. I had never made one before and just did it "au pif" (totally on a whim with no idea what you are doing). Everyone said it was good. Birthday Boy said "not enough sugar". p.s. have you seen his teeth? Stay away from the sugar, I say.....
Her highness and the typical reaction to the hat being put on for our daily walks and outings. Less than thrilled.

Outside our crashpad in Calvinet. Estelle is in the carrying scarf that we got as a gift from TaTa (this means "auntie" in French) Yvette, from whom Estelle has her middle name.

Did you know that this is what walnuts look like in their original form? They grow on trees, and walnut oil is made from these thick green pods that the nut grows inside of.

This is me and Thomas' cousin's husband Bruno and his daughter Lalie on their farm near Calvinet. Beautiful. Hundreds of acres. Stunning, absolutely stunning views. How Vermont used to be before Walmart and civil unions made it so darn trendy.

Vacation, All I ever wanted!

The GoGo's had it right: sometimes you just need a vacation!

Reporting from Angers, France: our little family spent 2 weeks in Calvinet, population 450 and native town to Thomas' parents. Sunday Thomas trekked back to Nice to start his new job. Calvinet is in the middle of the Cantal, in the Auvergne - where blue cheese comes from, and naturally, Cantal cheese, for those gourmet cheese lovers in the states). Also on Sunday, Estelle and I came here to Angers in the Loire valley with Guy and Andrée to their home.

2 lovely weeks of Indian Summer in the land of agriculture did us all some good. Estelle put on a few pounds and quickly became the "etoile" of Calvinet. We picked apples and pears, as well as chestnuts! We celebrated Thomas' 29th birthday and revisited our childhood with nightly matches of MasterMind and Milles Bornes (that game makes so much more SENSE once you live in France).
This week, myself and the baby are touring the social circuit of Angers and drinking more tea and eating more petit fours while accepting yet MORE gifts for Mademoiselle Estelle.

If I can figure out my father-in-law's computer, I'll post photos. Hard to believe I'll be back in Nice on Sunday. Next stop after that - Vermont: for those interested, Estelle and I get on a plane for Montreal on Oct 27th - Dec 2nd.

Ch-CH-CH-Ch-CH-CH-CHANGES

When I lived in Vermont, I was a student actress.
When I lived in New York, I worked on Broadway in a big hotel.
When I lived in Washington, I assisted a CEO with, well, a lot of stuff in his life.
Since I've lived on the French Riviera, I taught students how to communicate in English.
Now, this is what I do all day. These photos were taken within a 45-second span.

For Cryin' Out Loud

Let's just say I'm almost too ticked off to even write an entry on this blog at the moment.
The gist involves getting Estelle registered for dual-citizenship and getting her an American Passport, and the FRENCH people who work at the American Consulate of Nice (what? huh? shouldn't they be American? Shouldn't we be speaking in ENGLISH when you call, not French?) NOT calling me as they SAID they would to cancel my appt. that has been scheduled for a MONTH, thus involving many machinations on my part, Thomas' part, and Estelle's part (I had already adjusted her nap schedule to accommodate what was to be this afternoon's big appearance of our family at the Consulat).
Well, as I said, I'm too ticked off to go into the details, but after having called to confirm the time, I found out, there is, in fact, no time. See you in a month, they said.
So glad we jumped over backwards to figure out a plan to get Thomas back here to Nice for this appt and the car and the blah blah blah blah blah.
I screamed, in French, got another appt (in one month) and the assurance that I will have her passport for when I need it.
Good to see the efficiency of the Consulat is exactly where it was 18 months ago when I was trying to get married over here.
Sigh.

Like Father, Like ?

So, it's official. Estelle looks like Thomas.
This, according to: the mailman (my new friend - see previous post Care Packages),
the midwife,
the pediatrician (never seen Thomas but says she looks nothing like me, thus....),
my family (from digital photos),
our neighbor who looks himself like Barry Manilow,
all my friends here,
my obstetrician, and, for that matter,
everyone else.

The obstetrician said to me today "Look at it this way, no one can accuse you of cheating with the mailman!" he chuckled away. I fake-smiled him.

Really I could care less, I mean, Thomas is a pretty-boy, so that's F-I-N-E. But I'd like a better defense that what I've come up with so far, which is "yeah, she's got my feet". Pathetic.